Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Better late than never

Yeah I am a tax virgin. Never done my taxes since I started working in 1999. Hahahah how did I get away. I don't know. But one thing is good. I finally did it yesterday. Yahoo...

Benjamin Franklin once said
"Certainty? In this world nothing is certain but death and taxes."

Ha ha ha.. very morbid.

Oh oh oh.. but I want to say how I skip the EXTREMELY long line in the tax dept. I did the naughty and said innocently "is there a special line for pregnant ladies?" which immediately helped me. I would not feel so bad if they also helped all those mothers with little ones. But I did. However I really was tired and TAXES are important. It paid for my A-levels, first and second degrees. Thanks to all Malaysian Tax Payers. I promise the investment in me would not go to waste.

Waiting is such sweet sorrow!

Today is the end of April. My car will arrive in July. Hmmm... two months and a half... the waiting. I know if I do not watch the time, it will fly within a blink of an eye. That knowledge still does not appease me.

Anyhoo what else can take my attention away from my BIG job of marking another 280 exam papers, plus another 44 exam paper which just arrived yesterday for another subject. It is exhausting but I appreciate my friend's comments and advice on the marking method. It does help. Loads. Cheers ladies.

I woke up so tired this morning. I thank my Guardian Angel for getting me safely to work. I got knocked out for 2 hours in the morning after arriving in the office. Maybe I am pushing myself too hard. I have to remember that I am pregnant. I promise to do what I can and not kill myself doing what I must do.

My kiddo has a beer belly.

Not to be taken literally. However my kiddo is "buncit" (a large stomach in Malay). My paediatrician cousin says "Aw,... don't worry it is normal for all small toddlers to have the belly".

My kiddo at 17 months


It worries everyone especially the grandparents who do not stop mentioning it to me. My Dad especially would not stop nagging. Hmmm... I would say my kiddo is an exception. He was born big, the radiologist in the UK mentioned that he had a long femur (thighbone) at 20 weeks old. From a year of breast milk he was this very very healthy looking baby. He is so cudly in bed. :)

My Kiddo at 3 months


My Kiddo at 5 months
He was always on the heavy side of the expected baby weight. He is a solid strong kiddo. But the nagging does not stop. He has is a "buncit" boy. It worries me too. Does my kid have worms? Is he like those African children who are perpetually having large stomachs due to malnutrition and sickness?... What my cousin says reverberates in my head again. "It is normal for my kiddo to be buncit". Okay.... Since my kiddo is on the big side... He will definitely eat a lot and he does.

I decided in the early days to be strict with his eating habits. This is so he would not be obese like those China emperor babies we keep on reading and hearing about. I need to teach him good eating habits now because it is a reality that one's health for the rest of his life depends on his foundation eating habits.

So no coca-cola (fizzy drinks), no sweetened drinks, no chocolates, no cakes, no sweets, no candies, no processed food etc. Good foods are like, grains, nuts, eggs, any fruits, any types of vegetables, rice, low salt food, low sugared food, fresh food is best etc. I might sound harsh and inflexible but I need to think about how his eating habits now will dictate his future eating habits.

I feel strongly about this because I just heard the news about how Malaysians are complaining that their children are not sleeping well. I think Malaysians on the whole have lack of exposure on the relationship of food and their children's sleeping and waking habits. For example a can of coca cola has about 7.5 teaspoonful of sugar and is high in caffeine. You can not expect a child to drink that and not be hyperactive. If it could make us grownups have a burst of energy. Imagine what it can do to that tiny bodies our kids have. I suspect the sleeping problems kids have are directly related to their eating habits. I also have a cousin who had been diagnosed as having Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder ADHD. Which balls me when I can see my Aunty giving him all the food which contributes to him having such high energy and does not allow him to rest his heart. With all due respect, to all mothers make sure you know what you feed your children. The saying "you are what you eat" is so true in this case.

Furthermore, I am no professional in nutrition but I have a few tips:

  • Do not feed your kids any of the high sugar, high salt or highly processed food 8 hours before they are suppose to sleep (except milk formula, i even dilute this in his milk).
  • Always have fresh fruits lying around so if your kid wants to snack they can pick it up. Bananas are good.
  • Feeding your kid Bad food (in my list of no's) is flexible for mornings, but not all the time everyday. At least you don't become too much in the other extreme and have some flexibility.
  • Give your kid 3 main meals a day with 2-3 snacks (good food list) in between.
  • A toddler only needs about 16-24 ounces of milk a day. However My kiddo is a milk monster I am struggling at reducing his milk intake.
I repeat that I am not perfect nor am I a professional nutritionist but good eating habits are extremely important for children. As the Malay idiom says "Melentur buluh hendaklah dari rebung" (Directly translated: To bend bamboo, do it when it is still a shoot").

They are a lot of advice on the internet about healthy eating habits for children one example is BBC nutrition for toddlers 1-4

Monday, April 28, 2008

Colour finalised!

In continuation of what colour to choose from wed, April 23 post.

Really appreciate all your comments... I am so fickle minded I wish I had a wand to change the colour as I like when I like it so I won't be in this dilemma.

I would choose black. It looks sooo yeah chic, elegant and sexy. BUT I got no time to maintain that colour all the time. As Sue and Mae mentioned. I agree. Ben had a black Celica once. He wrote "Rachel, Clean me!" on it.. hahah I can happen imagine that it will happen again with black.

Champagne seems like my most favourite colour. However the skirting is an awkward colour. If it would be champagne all the way I would jump on that colour. Unfortunately not. In addition to that imagine me waiting an extra 3 to 4 weeks for the car to arrive. My baby would pop out before I can drive the car, and there goes the joy of driving the car for a month. Uwaaaaaaaa....

Silver the least loved colour will be my choice. Hah. Why is it my unfavourite colour? Not because it is common but that I think it is a cold colour. However I need a change of atmosphere. I need a new look anyway. Having changed from a vibrant naughty singleton to a serious lecturing mother. Ahemmmm! "Perasan tai". I think I would get used to it. Besides I see myself in champagne colour for only about the next 3 years of which I will change into the silver. A more settled colour, composed, safer driver with a tendency to criticize other drivers (I laugh at this last description).


To find out what a car colour says about you checkout automotoportal

Today, it is believed that the color of your car speaks volumes about your personality and driving habits. Business people would choose cars with darker colors, buses and truck drivers like lighter colors, and sports cars drivers often choose cars with strong staring colors.
From Wikipedia:

"A Swedish study found pink cars safest, with black cars most likely to be involved in crashes (Land transport NZ 2005)."

"An Auckland, New Zealand studies found a significantly lower risk of serious injury in silver cars; with high risks for brown, black, and green cars. (Furness et al, 2003)"

So, according to psychologists,

Red
cars denote those who are full of zest, energy and drive, brave, ambitious and impatient characters, who also think, move and talk quickly. The color red is a synonym for sex, speed, thoroughness and dynamism.

Brown or orange color denotes those who are practical, independent and who like to race. These colors represent sensibleness, time and simplicity.

Yellow cars describe someone who is idealistic and novelty loving, and who is also intelligent and warm.

Green cars indicate someone who is careful and unsociable, but also has hysterical tendencies.

Blue cars are chosen by the imaginative, loyal, and trustworthy people.

Pink cars are chosen by gentle, loving and affectionate drivers. Pink represents creativity and individuality.

Silver and grey cars describe someone who is cool, calm, and slightly aloof and who is prone to criticizing other drivers.

Black cars are chosen by stubborn, disciplined people, who like classic cars and elegance. They are not easy to manipulate.

White cars represent status-seeking, extrovert drivers, who are also optimistic, simple and who you can rely upon.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

So much but so little time!

I dreaded this. Aimed to finish 40 papers per day. I am fooling myself. It is Friday tomorrow and I am only about to calculate the total marks for all these 40 papers. I have another 270 papers to go and only another 3 weeks to go. Maybe if I sleep in the office and never leave until I finish marking I will be able to finish the papers.

"mati lar saya"...

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Oooops no. I am in a Dillemma Again!

Common, I do not understand why I am so undecided about the colour of my new car. i am normally boring and very decided about things. This time. I am confuzzed.

People help me decide. Which colour suits me best?


Black, champagne or silver (posted in my blog on Thursday, April 10, 2008)????
HELPPPPP...

Monday, April 21, 2008

Should remember songs like this.

I heard this song yesterday and it gave me a lot of strength. Hope it will help others too.


WHITNEY HOUSTON LYRICS

"Greatest Love Of All"

I believe the children are our are future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be
Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone to fulfill my needs
A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me

[Chorus:]
I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be

[Chorus]

And if by chance, that special place
That you've been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love

Sunday, April 20, 2008

A pack of Kit Kat.

:) my other half gave me a pack of Kit Kat two weeks ago. Hmmm I took it as a sign that I needed a break. Where to go? What to do?

Bali.. yahoooooo... cheap flight. Gorgeous beachside hunks. Get a crazy sun tan. Party and drink all night! Or sit under a shade and read a book. Snog a gorgeous fling. HAHAHHAHAH I am dreaming. Been there done that. Sigh.

Instead. I chose to go for a personal retreat at Kaingaran, Tambunan called Pusat Pertapaan Karmel. Why the religious type of break? My life recently had undergone so much changes. I metamorphosised from a single, happy go lucky crazy 20 something to this settled, married, troubled 30 something mother, teacher and pregnant lady. Calls for a change. It calls for a simple spiritual rejuvenation of the spirit. I did not expect much except from my memory of Bundu Tuhan Retreat about 8 years ago. Where I found a peaceful place with a lot of beautiful views and lots of talking youths, was good for the soul.

However, this place is different though. They had Brothers and also Sisters. They have prayers. They have a place for you to lay your head to rest and everyone does not talk very much. A lot of time to reflect. Which I did accompanied by a very good book The 8 stages of life. They would also give a good counsel. This is not professional counsellings like those you get with Shrinks. Which if you expect would get you disappointed. However it provided me with another way. Coupled with existing self counseling practice, Sister Emma gave me prayer and Jesus to help me. Watch it. I sound like those religious extremist you might say. I beg you to differ. When presented with a big problem try every avenue to solve your problem. At least this way is guided and not full of potholes. They say don't knock it till you try it. Been running around in my head for years to solve this personal problem. I finally found the answer. Pray and trust in the Lord Jesus. :)

Still working on the mental housekeeping, added with prayers and Lord Jesus I hope to become unstuck. Bless the Lord.

Thursday, April 10, 2008

I found my dreamcar

What is my dream car you ask? Something small, safe, sporty, a lot of space for people and a lot of fun.

At first I could not see anything I wanted in the market along these lines. In my financial range at the moment I could afford the Toyota Avanza. So that was what I was aiming for initially. Now. Hmmm I would say it was love at first sight. I can not get this car out of my mind. I will now have to really work hard for it. It is miles more expensive than the Avanza but I really do not like the van look. :( What a pity because on the money view it is perfect.

However I have a chance to increase my pay within the next month. There is a government exam which I can take. If I score top marks for that. I would surely be able to get an increment. That brings me well into the range of being able to afford the car. This is such a happy moment for me. Just have to work harder in getting that extra pay and maybe do more part time jobs.

Hah. A little voice is warning me of the dangers of going for something which pushes the budget. hmmm. Not another dilemma. Just look at this baby. Hmmmm. I don't have to ask you if you think the Avanza can compete with this.

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

To move to room 78 or stay in room 10?

I am in a dilemma.

First of all my office floor tiles need to be relaid. Bummer! I love my room. I was told I have to empty it for almost a week. What is a pregnant lady to do?

Someone whispered to me to move to a larger room on the level 2 of our building. Hmmm that is a thought. A bigger room. More space. For tiny me. Ponder... ponder.. ponder. However I was never a person to ponder without action. So I went to get the room lock picked. You would want to ask why? This is because the room key was lost and nobody wanted to bother getting a locksmith to open the door. So I did and I found out the room is big and has a very very nice view of the sunset. Lovely... Still I wanted to be really sure. This will be the room which will almost be like a second home. After all I will be living in it 8 hours a day, 5 days a week for about 20-30 years. Hmmm. I feel like I am choosing a husband.. Ha ha ha ha ha. I wish I did this much research before I married my husband. Ha ha ha ha. Those who know me will know what I mean. :) Wink wink wink.

The downside of the room is that it had flooded twice within the past one year. Because the broken water tank lies above another room on level 3 which is above my room. Is that bad Feng Shui? I need a Feng Shui Master quick. Can I change the Chi of the room somehow? If yes, how?

I will ponder again. Maybe I will move myself there temporarily and have the choice to return to my office once my floor tiles have been fixed. Maybe I will do that. :) And if I end up liking the room then I do not have to move back to room 10.

Oh well. We shall see what the future holds and what comments I get on this.

Monday, April 7, 2008

It is alive and kicking!

Hey ho... baby calm down...

This baby,... man is a groover.. loves to go wiggling about and giving mommy a heart attack...

anyhoo.. my heart is also excited about... ;) my new humble car.. it is coming... soon.. it is nothing great.. just a nice ol family car... but it is new.. and it is gold in color and it is all mine.

Woo hooo... I feel so happy... I could cry... hmmm Thank God I can cry about something happy. Recently everything seemed to succeed in getting me to feel down and crying... hah.. But I will persevere and let the shadow fall behind. Keep the sun in my face.

I am like a bird - Eagle.. woo hoo..

Your Power Bird is an Eagle
You are spiritual and able to soar to great heights.
You are a true inspiration, and many people look to you for guidance.
And you are quite demanding in relationships... but you're worth it.
People know that you will become even greater than you imagine.

The Keys to Your Life - Shite! truth reverberates.

The Keys to Your Life
Anything good in your life comes from you having the strength to make good decisions.

You know how to assess a situation before you leap into action.

Anything bad in your life comes from fooling yourself or clinging to illusions.

Be strong enough to see the world clearly. Learn from your mistakes.

My Shoe Type - Oh I am common... :)

You Are Sneakers
You are creative, funky, and forward thinking.
You are cool, but you are still approachable.

You are stylish and edgy, but you aren't a slave to fashion.
You tend to put your own spin on trends.

You tend to have a fast paced, busy lifestyle.
Not a lot of people can keep up with you!

You should live: Near nature

You should work: In a job that keeps you on the go

The Sesame Street Personality Quiz - Who would have guessed

You Are Bert
Extremely serious and a little eccentric, people find you lovable - even if you don't love them!

You are usually feeling: Logical - you rarely let your emotions rule you

You are famous for: Being smart, a total neat freak, and maybe just a little evil

How you live your life: With passion, even if your odd passions (like bottle caps and pigeons) are baffling to others